Building Your Relationship One Step At A Time…

How to fix a marriage – The Missing Link

By on November 15, 2014 in For Men, For Women, How To's, Marriage
Please follow and like us:
120

How To Fix A MarriageDid you know about 40 to 50% of marriages in United States ends in divorce (Kazdin, Alan E. Encyclopedia of Psychology. Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association, 2000. Print.). Most couples think divorce is the easy way out. Is it really? How many couples have actually gone through the commitment of fixing their marriage? Fair to say that .. most couples wont even give a second thought to such thing. But the answer to “How to Fix A Marriage” is certainly not divorce. Ok. So you knew that. And now you want to find out a solution to fix your marriage. If so, continue reading….

Yes, it’s true. Most marriages end in a nasty divorce or separation. The reasons are plenty depending on the circumstances, because not all marriages are the same. So then what exactly is the leading cause of marriage breakup? Is it infidelity, loss of love, lack of finances, loss of passion or something else? Is there really a definitive answer on “How to fix a marriage?

Relationship tips are available in abundant amounts all over the net – and even in book stores. And most of the relationship tips are truly genuine and can work if applied. However, it’s human nature to not act – to not take that necessary step to make the change. Think about a time when you had to change your behavior – something that you knew isn’t good for you and must change – but when the decisive moment came for you to take action, you kept backing out. Why? Was it the thought in your head going, “Oh! there’s still time. You can quit next week. Or the gym will always be there. One chocolate cone ice-cream isn’t going to do that much damage. Besides it’s only for today”. But what you do not realize is that this pattern keeps repeating itself over and over again – and you wonder why stuff keeps happening again and again.

No matter how much you try to educate yourself with the most recent or up-to-date relationship tips or get the best advice from top-notch marriage counselors – if you need to make your marriage work then you will need to take action. How bad do you want your marriage to work? What are the resources available to you at this very moment that you can use towards getting your marriage fixed? Is your heart set right on to fixing your marriage – in such a way – that then next time your spouse lays his/her eyes on you – they will literally be blown out of the water. You are able to knock their socks of with sweet revenge.

Fixing A Marriage – The Right Way:how to fix a marriage

The truth is, there is no ‘one’ cause. Think of marriage like a jet stream, set within a gorgeous landscape surrounded by mountains and green pastures – a sight that is absolutely breathless – with a steady flow. But what happens if the stream gets blocked by debris, whatever that might be, such as a fallen tree or large piece of rock.

The stream continues, but it’s not smooth anymore, but rather, the water tries to overflow the blocks that prevents it from flowing smoothly. But eventually if the blocks are not removed then water starts to build up and the stream stops its smooth flow. Marriage is similar. If the blocks are not removed, the doubts not cleared, the feelings not repaired then you prepare yourself the road to a marriage disaster.

Are you in such a spot right now? Are your thoughts being dominated on How to fix your marriage? Or what you can do to re-vitalize your relationship? Or you might even wonder ‘Can my marriage be fixed?’

Marriage is always a work in progress. But no matter what the situation you are in – regardless of how bad your situation might seem – you can turn your marriage around for the better. In fact, you can bring your marriage into a state of such ecstasy that you’ll be even surprised at the outcome.

Relationship Tips:

Now, you might be wondering what the steps, are in order to get your marriage in the right order. Many resources on the net and perhaps even hard copy resources might offer you relationship tips such as to focus either one or all of the following:

Most commonly offered relationship tips on how to fix a marriage are:

  • Communication
  • Passion (Intimacy and Sex)
  • Changing your attitude
  • Giving preference or making more time for each other
  • Going on a date
  • Surprising each other
  • Authoritative Behavior
  • …etc..etc…

Will the above mentioned tips really be the definitive answers on how to fix a marriage? Not necessarily. You can work on getting right all of the above but still, you will have something holding you back that will most likely land you back at the same spot …

So then what is that missing link that will bring you back your marriage? The missing link that is stronger than any other emotion –

What you are about to read might shock you:

Think about the #1 factor that most marriages fail. This is not something that is set in stone or that is deduced by years of research by PhD psychologist(s) or marriage counsellors. You might or perhaps will not hear of this #1 missing link elsewhere.

The Answer Is…..

FEAR!!.. You read that right. It’s your innate fear that causes the crack in your relationship. Find a way to confront your fear and you have the defining answer to your question – “How to fix a marriage?”

How does FEAR effect your marriage?

If your answer is yes to any of the below then you know fear has gotten the best of you:

  • You had a gut feeling about your marriage being in trouble, but you brushed it off, thinking you do not want to deal with the repercussions
  • Your heart felt heavy, when your significant other started to ignore you, but you were afraid to bring it up
  • You smelled something fishy with your spouse’s behavior, something that did not fit the picture, but you hesitated, fearing your spouse’s reaction
  • When you had the chance to address a disagreement about something you kept avoiding the situation
  • You feared that the marriage break-down is your own actions or you got worried in not having the answers to fix your feelings
  • You felt the need to express yourself to your spouse but you kept hesitating, thinking, on how your spouse might react or the effect your thoughts will create on your spouse.

Does any of the above sound familiar? If yes, then you know, !!FEAR!! Is the #1 reason for almost all marriage failures? Overcome your fear and confront what is presented before you and you will have taken the very first step in fixing your marriage.

To overcome your fear all you have to do is believe in yourself, clear yourself of negative thinking, and know that your spouse will abide and support you no matter what the situation is. Besides your end goal is to fix your marriage and in order to accomplish that no matter the circumstances – no matter the outcome – if you do not overcome your FEAR then you have no chance to fix your relationship.

 Learn More:

Please follow and like us:
120

Tags: , , , ,

There Are 5 Brilliant Comments

Trackback URL | Comments RSS Feed

  1. Gretchen says:

    Hi there! I could have sworn I’ve been to your
    blog before but after looking at many of the articles I realized it’s new to me.
    Regardless, I’m definitely delighted I discovered it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back frequently!

  2. Thanks to my father who shared with me about this web site, this webpage is really remarkable.

  3. Hello! I’ve been following your website for some time now
    and finally got the courage to go ahead and give you a shout out from Lubbock Tx!

    Just wanted to mention keep up the great work!

  4. Your style is unique compared to other people I have read stuff from.
    Thank you for posting when you have the opportunity,
    Guess I’ll just book mark this site.

  5. Excellent post. I used to be checking continuously this weblog and I’m
    impressed! Extremely useful info particularly the closing part :
    ) I handle such information a lot. I was seeking this particular info for a
    long time. Thank you and best of luck.

Top

Enjoy this blog? Please spread the word :)